Hello friends. Yippee, spring is here! May this month be filled with goodness, brightness and greatness. Our focus on The Weekend Bite™ this month is #Validation
#Validation is the recognition of another person's feelings, position, abilities, attributes or point of view. It doesn't necessarily mean agreement but gives the recipient an opportunity to feel heard, understood, valued and important.
Validation helps nurture relationships. You cannot say you truly love someone if you never acknowledge their standpoint, views, feelings, strengths or good deeds. Where such validation is absent, one person may feel undervalued, underappreciated or misunderstood and that may slowly drive a union to its death.
People need positive feedback that what they say and believe in matters to those who love them. They want to be seen, heard, thought of, appreciated and celebrated.
Listen to others, respect their feelings and view points, praise their strengths, encourage them to do better in areas of weakness.
Love them unconditionally. Use 'please', 'thank you', 'I'm sorry', 'well done', 'You are great' and more, for those you love. This will encourage them to keep going.
Don't choose to be the source of a person's discouragement, lack of self-confidence or distress. You cannot knowingly hurt those you love, you should be spurring them on. It is for this reason that it is important to make amends when you get it wrong. Your focus should be on adding value always.
Finally, take time to re-evaluate your words, actions and relationships. Get your thoughts together and start validating those you love the most. That's the secret to getting the best out of them and helping them to become all they are meant to be.
All the best!
Cheers!
©LAW Afolabi, April 2016
Cheers!
©LAW Afolabi, April 2016
